1 Powerful Technique to Get Max Out of Your Book Reading Habit


Book readers follow different technique to navigate a Self-Help books. Out of different techniques I followed in past 8 years, I found one easy and powerful technique to get  maximum benefit out of a book in shorter span of time. It is called – “SHIFT” technique. I came across this technique in “Leading with GRIT” by Laurie Sudbrink.

Here are the 5 SHIFT steps you need to remember when you read your next book:

  1. Scan the chapter
    • List the topics that resonated with you. I use Mind Maps to list down the topics.
  2. Hone in on one or two areas that will make the biggest impact for you
    • Extend the mind map with area name
  3. Imagine the impact. Why is this important? How will you feel when you’ve accomplished this?
    • Capture these information in the mind map branches
  4. Figure out your plan and how you will stay on track
    • Planning is needed to get the maximum benefit
  5. Take action
    • Start now. Schedule it now and include your follow-up

Try it. Adapt it.

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Perfect Self-statements for FAILURE


Failure.. Yeah. you heard it right. Failure creates a deep negative impact in our minds, but.. it is possible to change the way how we see a failure. Here are 20 self-statements challenge you to think in a different way about failure. Instead of using the old passive, complaining statements that portrays you as a victim, when you try these statements it will give empowerment to take control in life when facing hardship.

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17 Typical Cognitive Distortions – Mind Map


Cognitive distortions are “true like” thoughts that mind generates to support existing behaviors & actions which are actually otherwise bad. As these distortions affects decision making, judgment and creates worry, it is important to understand them and avoid them as much as possible.

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The Law of Intentionality – First Law in 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth (John C. Maxwell) – Mind Map


Here is the gist of the first law from 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell. In this Law of Intentionality, author establishes “Personal Growth” is intentional & not accidental.

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The Law of Intentionality

The Law of Intentionality

Happiness Model – Which one is yours?


Here is two model of defining your happiness.

Model A (in Left): Happiness is the main factor & others items surrounding it are by products. Being happy attracts good in every other thing surrounding it. You want to stay happy to achieve good in everything.

Model B (in Right): Happiness is by-product of all other items surrounding it. Only when good happens in other items, it gives rise to happiness. You want to stay good in everything to achieve happiness.

Happiness Model

Happiness Model

So which Model is yours? Left (Or) Right?

Techniques to deal with Desires & Wishes


Desires or wishes are nothing but our thoughts that are formed to get worldly items (it can be knowledge, wealth, pleasure, relationship, etc) that we like to acquire one or the other day. To deal with desires, we are using different techniques. Each one has its pros & cons.

Technique of Indulgence – This technique tells “If you have a desire, Go get it.” In that way, you can make sure it will be achievable in your life. Though we get the desire fulfilled immediately but we cannot say surely that it is removed fully.

Technique of Suppression – This technique tells “Whenever a desire comes to your mind, you tell yourself that it is wrong to have the thought”. Though this helps for short period, but it leads to depression. Also, this is the technique used if indulgence is not possible any more or desire cannot be fulfilled by any means.

Technique of Distraction – This technique tells “whenever a desire comes to your mind, distract it with some activity that occupies it”. Again here it helps for a short time. Many people goes to movie just to practice this technique – forget the worries for couple of hours & comes to old status once they come out of movie theatre.

Technique of Sublimation –  This technique tells “whenever a desire comes to your mind, convert it or transform it to a higher level of need (life goal) instead of indulgence or suppression”. We can practice the technique of setting an ultimate goal in mind & reminding it whenever a distracting desire or wish pops up.

Sigmund Freud says “Sublimation is a mature type of defense mechanism where socially unacceptable impulses or idealizations are consciously transformed into socially acceptable actions or behavior, possibly resulting in a long-term conversion of the initial impulse”

Sublimation is when displacement “serves a higher cultural or socially useful purpose, as in the creation of art or inventions” – Wade and Tavris

Though we are practicing all the above techniques in life, Sublimation technique is the best as it is transformational in nature with long-term effect.

Situations to use Transactional Leadership in Team


Transactional leadership occurs when the leader rewards the team member, depending on the adequacy of the team member’s performance. Transactional leadership depends on contingent reinforcement, either positive contingent reward (CR) or the more negative active or passive forms of management-by-exception (MBE-A or MBE-P). [1]

Here are some situations I can think of.

* Use CR – when you found team member is motivated with some kind of reward & you can arrive a mutual agreement with your team member on reward he is getting after the work done is expected fashion.

* Use MBE-A – when you don’t want a mistake/error done by your team member propagates further that may jeopardize the project. You actively get the statuses, problems, challenges, develop processes, ensure adherence of project processes, conduct reviews, etc so that no error goes beyond certain time period. This really required when you manages a critical project & have time to do micro management. This is used when team member is having less experience in the work area. MBE-A may be required and effective in some situations, such as when safety is paramount in importance[2].

* Use MBE-P – when you don’t really care much about the errors or deviance as soon as it occurred. You have some time to correct them & they are not critical. This is followed when team member is having good experience in the area of working.
Leaders sometimes must practice passive MBE when required to supervise a large number of subordinates who report directly to the leaders[2]

Reference:

1. Significant Behaviors of Transactional Leadership –https://leadershipchamps.wordpress.com/2008/09/19/significant-behaviors-of-transactional-leadership/
2. Transformational Leadership (Second Edition) BY Bernard M. Bass, Ronald E. Riggio, Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc.,2006